Some Rituals

For me, there is nothing as cool as starting my day with a shower in the morning. Water ceases to be something I only use to quench my thirst, or wash my body and hair; it becomes a ritual of washing away the night and its dormancy. The same is true when I take a shower right before I go to bed; water not only cleanses my body, it washes away the day and all it presented me with. A shower becomes a ritual of washing away any baggage or concerns of the now ending day, it psychologically frees me as I anticipate a new day.

The same is true about coffee; coffee to me is more than getting a dose of caffeine to get the day started, it is both pleasure and comfort. Coffee is my ritual.

What is your ritual?

Amabeere (breasts) cave. Fort Portal, Uganda

Published by Msdedeng

At 41, I am still figuring out life: my place in society, my career path, a family of my own, any many others things. Heck, I am still trying to make friends in California; a place I moved to 3 years ago. I am currently in a Community College to make up for the many years I missed school while in Africa (Uganda). I intend to transfer to university next year and double major in History and English. I lead a very ordinary life; a normal day is spent doing school assignments, hiking, or reading. My favorite thing to do is walk! Short walks or long walks it does not matter. Walking allows me to think about things - anything! My love of walking comes from where I grew up, a small village in northeastern Uganda. It is still one of the most remotest areas I will ever know, and couldn't even start comparing what life is like there to say a place like California. Walking was all I did while growing up! I walked for miles to school, to church, to the shops, to the borehole to fetch water, and to the market. It was quite an adventure unlike any other - so you now understand my love for walking.

38 thoughts on “Some Rituals

    1. Ha-ha!
      Thank you for your response, and I always get excited to meet people who love coffee like I do. Meditation sounds real good, but i have a hard time concentrating. My mind always wonders away and I forget why I am meditating in the first place. Any tips for me to keep at it?

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      1. My way to it is weird. I think I can write about it but I’m not sure if it will help. Eastern martial arts got me into it – context of fighters meditatinmg to stay calm made me believe in that technique πŸ˜‰

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    1. I find that you are either a tea or coffee person, but I must confess, I love milky tea. πŸ™‚ Smoothies, not so much, but only because I don’t like cold beverages at all. 😦

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      1. Haha I am both a tea and a coffee person. Prior to lockdown, I’d rotate my days between tea and coffee! Oh interesting! That’s good though, apparently cold beverages aren’t that good for you especially in the morning anyway!

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      2. Ah! Your reply is an example to NOT generalize people, but what about this one; you are either a cat or dog person, not both. No?
        The benefit of drinking tea is that you can have as many cups a day as possible, coffee restricts me to two cups only.
        Cold beverages just make me teeth ache and my stomach cold, which I don’t care for.

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      3. Wuuu that’s a good one. Yeah most of my friends either have a cat or dog. That’s true about tea! I’m the same! Tea is also cheaper than coffee usually which is another benefit I like hahaha πŸ˜‚ And oh yeah I hate it when it aches my teeth

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    1. Thank you, Lance. I smile whenever someone says they love coffee. My mum tries to discourage me from drinking it, but fails miserably, but I don’t remember the last time I had cereal, no offense! πŸ™‚

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  1. I don’t have time for morning showers! I wish I didπŸ˜‚
    Getting kids up and packing lunches with a cup of tea does it for me! I like to warm my stomach first thing in the morning! I do the same for my kids, warm milk or milo and off we go.

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      1. Yes once you have kids forget some ritualsπŸ€ͺπŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜† kids come first. For example I used to have my alarm wake me up at 5am then some one thought the alarm was a bit slow if you know what I mean? Then kids became my alarm. But I still have my alarm on, just incase the kids sleep in. πŸ˜†

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  2. I use showering as a ritual sometimes. When I am sad, I wash everything and then take shower, wash my hair and shave the unwanted hair and I feel so much peace.

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    1. That is very true about sadness, a shower always helps fix that, and the topic of hair is another thing all together. Notice how girls/women change their hair every time they enter a new phase; a breakup, motherhood, etc. Good point!

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    2. It’s true about sadness! When I lost my dad, I used to look forward to night showers! ( long warm showers) only place I could cry out all the sadness! And yes I love washing hair too after a long bad day! 😘

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  3. After saying my Divine Mercy Prayer at 3:00am, the next thing is a cup of black coffee. It has become my daily ritual because I find the coffee opening my mind up to connect to a start of energetic new day.

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      1. The Divine Mercy Prayer takes about 20minutes for me because I have to go a little deeper in what I wish to communicate and this is done in silence. After the prayer there is also a moment of silence connected to your prayer. At 5;00am I get an hour’s sleep and 6;30am am fully up to start a new day.

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  4. As soon as we started quarantine with COVID, I decided to create new daily habits that now feel like rituals. They are: 1-beginning each day verbally expressing gratitude 2-exercise every day (yoga, running, or TRX) 3-drinking water (weird, but I used to only drink Dr Pepper, now Dr Pepper is my ‘treat’ after reaching my water goal) 4-journaling wins every day 5-focusing on my goals/dreams. πŸ™‚

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    1. Woah! What an awesome way to start the day! “Expressing gratitude” and I am feeling you on the yoga too. Welcome to the water-drinking club, I drink two liters everyday and it makes me feel clean. I am very sure that you are already seeing good results with your new routine.


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